"She desires to experience passionate connections and meaningful, intimate relationships. She is vulnerable, playful and free-spirited. She also sees life and people with curiosity, awe and innocence." Then comes the shadow self, "Whenever connection isn’t happening with a significant other, the shadow lover takes it personally, contracts or becomes needy and then withdraws as a way of coping. This is their way of getting power back because their emotional dependency renders them quite powerless." I see this in myself and in my past relationships, but I've been working very hard to care for myself better in order to overcome this and love unconditionally (eventually). "The Lover can appear as one who knows no boundaries and can overdo everything, override her own needs and her body’s needs." I admit that I can be very impulsive at times, and I can give in to the point of not knowing who I am and what I want anymore, and that's not healthy. The good thing is that "She also guides us into our little girl’s heart and helps us to feel what we really need." This, I am extremely grateful for. I can trust my heart to be my guide.